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Many people at some time or another experience the feeling of "going through Hell". Each experience is different from person to person, and what one has to endure (which may be horrific), another person in comparison may only be experience as slight discomfort. However, the bottom line is how we feel that is most important and how we deal with it and come out at the other end a different and better person than we were before it all took place.

The journey for many in their quest to "come out" can be as different as chalk and cheese. Society, religions, cultures, ignorace, media (ironically), small mindedness, and even education can be evil in nature and lack "love" and understanding. However, none of this ever changes who you are, and once "out" life changes for the better, even if one gets snide remarks at times.

This audio download discusses areas of our life that by and large we tend to keep quiet about. Our fetishes, our secret desires, private hobbies and likes etc, often that are out of the "norm" or general understanding of pedestrian thought. This can lead us to living a "double life", it can be exciting, it can be cruel, it can be unkind and it can be lonely.

This audio download is about John Rushton, "The Life Doctor", and how it all came about for him to record audio tracks on various emotional subjects - and also how his broadcasting and writing career developed. I hope you enjoy it....

When we get angry, upset, or someone does something we don't like, or we feel disadvantaged, we process that information in our mind. It is the only place where we can "come to terms" with what we have experienced, whatever it is. Our levels or degrees of intelligence play a vital part in how we think and look at life. Ghandi said that "forgiveness was not something the lower classes or the uneducated could do", and by and large it appears to be true.

We need to steer our course in life because if we don't then life will by default takes us where it is going, often to a place where we didn't want to be. Life doesn't hold any favourites nor does it take prisoners; it goes its own way regardless. What we do in life is down to us regardless of circumstances and conditions - those we can rarely control. What we can control even if we are somewhat timid in personality is how we think and what we do and how we react to everything.

Suppose life had no barriers, what would you do?Unless you are in prison, then life has very few barriers in reality, so why aren't you forging ahead and just getting your show on the road for all to see? Life also has many choices and options. Are you making the best of what is available or are you shying away because they don't suite your purpose or maybe require too much of a change that takes you out of your "comfort zone" which is probably the real reason.

Relationships with our partners and "best" friends need to be of a high quality in order to feel "as one". If you have a partner the conversation should have changed from "me" to "us" and from "I" to "we"; if it hasn't then what are you doing together? The union of a couple whether straight or gay (or anything else) is a mutual harmony, otherwise what is the union all about. All this "I need my space" is a modern "cop-out", stay single and enjoy all the space you need. Selfishness in a relationship is a major curse as is "emotional blackmail", harmony doesn't have pockets of personal agendas, which doesn't mean you can't have individual thoughts and aspirations.

At times we all come an impass, an area in life whether we are starting out or perhaps in mid-life where we think we need to be somewhere else. Where we feel that we have either outgrown or exhausted our past and we need to do something else and move on. Our decisions can be relatively easy or they can be overwhelmingly difficult. At A Crossroads complements the book of the same name.

Life Bites Series. It is important that we prioritise certain aspects of our lives otherwise we never get anything done or it happens in the wrong way. Similarly we need an agenda too, even if it is just something simple at the back of our mind. It's when we have negative or subversive or hidden agendas or others in their own way do that so to "use" us to further their cause. Those that stroll through life rarely get anything grand done and often wonder how others manage.

Religion is a man made construct, it is a version of a God doctrine organised by man himself, and often over years has been altered and modified etc... and at times added to sometimes to an extent that the original truth no longer is as it should be (anything with man's hand in it has flaws). Ethnicity is who we are from a source point of view, colour, location, traits, features, mentality, culture, all of these things can have a profound effect upon how we view life and indeed how we live our lives.

We talk about what is and what isn't normal, but in reality "Normal" is only a relative term. What some call normal is abnormal for others (what is normal for a spider is chas for the fly). Everything in life is perspective based and that is relative to our understanding, background, education, religion and cultural habits. Our views on life can at times even make us wonder perhaps "Am I normal" in relation to others and vice versa.

Life Bite Series. Religions are a construct of God, whichever God you worship. God is the ultime in love. Where love exists there is no evil, it just can't be there in any form. If you worship a God that has evil and killing then ask yourself what is the Devil supposed to do? Religions have been amended, altered, changed, added to over the years and are now commercial aspects of God rather than what God offers.

It is important to value who you are. It is difficult at times when you are in a dark place and life seems to have no viable solutions as to what to do and where to go - but they are there. It is very difficult too when in that dark place to have any energy because it seems to be sapped out of you because of a lack of impetus and desire. Your mind knows what it wants, the body seems not to care and all one can dream about is to be left alone or waiting for that magic moment when all will be OK and it doesn't arrive.

We all have far more authority than we give ourselves credit for. Our upbringing, the media, rules and regulations, evil religions, outmoded customs and traditions all whittle away at the fabric of who we are. We have notions that saying NO will offend others, or that if we don't give in to certain things, it will upset others or spoil some grand plan. Yet whose life are you living? And what right have others to take away what you want, for themselves?

We should be comfortable with the choices we make for the right reasons. Granted not all choices offer a simple solution and degrees of compromise come into play unless you are a dictator or a despot. Assuming you are neither then there is a very wide range of choices you can make which can seriously affect your life to make it better or not so good.

Whatever you are going through there is a solution. Often we see only the "dark side" as our limited knowledge cannot comprehend anything other than our thoughts and as we can't see nor are we in a good mental state to want to see positive possibilities as we dwell where we are in a morose state. However, life is always full of inexplicably good things that can transform where we are and who we are in an instant or in a short space of time. We then look back and see where we were and we can't often believe that that was "us" then and where we are now.

Whatever happens, whatever prevails, whatever circumstances there are, you are still in charge of your life. Unless you are held at gunpoint which is highly unlikely then you make all the choices in life - even if it is a choice to follow someone else. If you do follow someone else as an easy option and it all goes wrong, then it's not them to blame; it is you who put your trust in them, even if they did something stupid. There's no getting away from the truth of the matter about yourself.

Coming out, despite the possible initial impetus to do so, is one of the most liberating aspects of your life. It is you who is being you. You don't need approval or permission nor anything else. Accepting who you are in every way is not only cathartic but puts you in a strong and definable position, because it is you who has to live with yourself every second of every day.

Life Bite Series. The Chameleon Effect is when you try to be everything to everybody to please them or fit in. The problem however with being everything to everyone is that you end up being nothing to yourself and ultimately a disappointment to everyone else as well as they never see the real until it is too late, then they feel let down. People must love you for who you are and not what you think they wold like to see or make up some fictitious character that is not you then you do one thing and that is deceive yourself.